“It might sound like a contradiction, but cooling off your guy's steamy body will actually get him hotter,” says Joel D. Block. Ph.D., sex therapist and author of Cracking the Love Code: A Tale of Discovery. Why? “Diverse sensations dramatically increase arousal, heighten skin sensitivity and release pleasure-fueling endorphins.” According to scientists, nerve cells respond to even the slightest change in temperature. So, when you chill one part of his body, you set skin all over his body on high alert for pleasure.
One sexy strategy: Block suggests using frozen berries (those with a smooth skin like blueberries work best) to sizzle things between the sheets. Have your guy lie on his back and use the berry to slowly draw an icy line from his neck all the way down one side of his body, up the inside of his leg, down the other side and back up again. Avoid his genitals the first time around. To make him really shiver with excitement, lick up the juice as the berries warm up. “Or, if you prefer a little ‘warm up’ for yourself, suggest that he put some berries between your legs to lick and suck on,” suggests Block.