TWNmisspiggy: Yes I will try it, but right now is kind of a hard time for us.
cl-drellenk: misspiggy, what happened in your life that changed you?
TWNmisspiggy: I lost a child to sids and we're fight about it right now
cl-drellenk: misspiggy -- there has to be a period of grieving and mourning. There is no substitute for time. You will be in pain and hurting for awhile, but little by little it will get better.
TWNmisspiggy: So if I still try this do you think it will help us? I will try when he gets home and I'll let you know. Thank you for the help.
cl-drellenk: misspiggy -- absolutely, the biggest thing I can tell you is you don't have to feel loving in order to say or do something loving, it can be small step and maybe just a small compliment at this point. Letting your husband know that in spite of everything you're glad he is still there. Good luck.
Nnorma: Do you think people change over the years and have different needs as life goes on?
cl-drellenk: Nnorma -- Yes, but let me tell you the best piece of advice you will ever get on relationships. We all fall in love because of the way we feel about ourselves when we are with our mate. When we no longer feel good, we will try to find somebody else who will make us feel good. That is what an affair is all about, it's not that the person is in love with someone else, it's that they're in love with is the way they feel about themselves when they're with the other person. It really takes so little to keep passion and love alive in a relationship.