GregGodek: I'm the author of a little book called 1001 Ways To Be Romantic and 13 additional books. All my books are practical relationship books. Theory is okay - to a point - but most people really do understand themselves psychologically. They just don't know how to put their knowledge into action. I'm a romantic maniac. I focus my creativity into my relationship - always have. All of my research indicates that the people with the best relationships are those who ACT on their love. In other words, they're romantic.
TeddyRR: How do you keep it hot after a long marriage?
GregGodek: To keep it hot, stay in constant contact in many little ways. A great technique is for married people to continue to "date" one another. The mindset of dating is more romantic than the mindset of marriage. Little things that show you care are great, like a simple call. How about choosing a favorite love song from a CD and having it playing on the stereo when he/she returns home? Take a song and rewrite the lyrics: Include his/her name, and personal references.
chereoh: I've been out of practice for some time now. We've been married almost 25 years and I really like to stay home and curl up in front of the fireplace. What are some suggestions to spice up the romance? I like the "dinner in bed" idea! We spend so much time on school, and my hubby doesn't really have a hobby.
GregGodek: Okay: Married 25 years: Start with a theme of "25." Give 25 balloons. Give 25 cards. Write 25 little love notes and hide them all over the house. Remember the poem, "How do I love thee/let me count the ways?" Well re-write the poem, and count 25 ways that you love him! We could keep a "25 theme" going for a long time. Mozart composed 41 symphonies; you could play the first 25. Find 25 great love songs. Record them on a cassette. Call him every 25 minutes during the day. Have your wedding vows framed. The key to long lasting romance is 1) Action, 2) Creativity. It takes changing the status quo. Start out by being romantic to him. And if that really doesn't work, then you've got to get tough with him.