11 Do's and Don'ts for a Sexy Night Ahead

Did you know that Valentine's Day is the only holiday dedicated to love in the entire calendar? If you want to make this February 14 one you and your partner cherish all year long, take a look at these simple suggestions for a steamy night ahead.


  • Make this a special time to focus on love. But instead of buying into the tireless emphasis on chocolates and roses or longing for that perfect mate (no one is perfect), adopt an attitude of gratitude about the good things that love can bring to your life. Do it with or without a partner by your side.
  • Uplift your environment. Play romantic music in your boudoir and bring in luscious velvets or anything else that makes you feel sexy.
  • Make specific plans to show your love to your partner. This could be making reservations at a lovely restaurant, buying a red teddy ahead of time to show off after your dinner with candles under moonlight or leaving a steamy "I love you" message on his voice mail at work.
  • Start a special ritual for self-love. Some ideas include creating a sacred spot in your bedroom or private closet where you place pictures of ones you love (even a pet may do), favorite found objects (a trinket or a dried rose) and anything else that tells you that you are loved. I always suggest favorite messages that can propel you into a sense of being loved, like Post-its with little affirmations you write to yourself that you are a worthy woman, a beautiful soul, a sexy beast, an alluring babe. Whatever it is that makes you feel the sense of being loved or loveable -- especially by your own self -- do it.
  • Make the first move. That's what Valentine's Day is really all about, the extension of romantic love. Invite your honey to a dinner on the patio, ride a hired a horse and buggy through the park, take him to the beach or new mall for a pre-dinner walk, go ice-skating or watch a romantic movie, such as Doctor Zhivago, Casablanca, Gladiator or Sleepless in Seattle. You pick!
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