Meltdown in Aisle 3! From Time-Outs to Talk-It-Outs, 19 Proven Ways to Stop Temper Tantrums

Few things can make you feel more helpless as a parent than facing a kid having a full-scale meltdown. To help, here are 19 smart ways to stop a tantrum -- one of them is bound to work (20 Photos)

Jenna McCarthy and Sally Farhat Kassab on Oct 2, 2012 at 2:29PM

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19 Proven Ways to Tame Tantrums

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a Jenna McCarthy and Sally Farhat Kassab on Sep 23, 2012 at 2:33PM

Nothing can short-circuit your sanity like a screaming toddler having a full-on meltdown. While you can't prevent or stop every tantrum, these proven expert moves can help make them less frequent and a lot more manageable.

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What to Know: First and foremost, keep in mind that temper tantrums are a normal part of toddlerhood that help your child become more independent. "The phase from 18 months to about four years old is a critical period of development in which a child learns he's a separate being from Mommy," explains Dr. Fran Walfish, a psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, CA and the author of The Self-Aware Parent: Resolving Conflict and Building A Better Bond with Your Child. While he's establishing his independence, he's also learning to control not only his body, but his feelings -- and that takes time.

What to Do: When your child has a violent outburst, remind yourself that most tantrums are normal. "Your challenge as the parent is to balance love and nurture with setting and holding boundaries," says Dr. Fran. As hard as it is not to lose it yourself, try to be patient and use some of the following strategies to get through it.

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