Yes, dating our husbands can be difficult to work into our busy schedules with children. For us "dating" helps to make our relationship a priority
Having it already penciled in on the schedule makes it that much more likely to happen than if it is the last thing on the schedule "if we have time." We have a "regular" sitter who lives nearby (the teenage daughter of a friend) and has a relatively flexible schedule so we can change our "usual" night to something else if need be on occasion. We budget the time and money for our date
We exchange babysitting with friends of ours so that we each get one date night per month. Once a month I go to their house and watch the kids so that when she and her husband get home, the kids are tucked into bed. Then they come to my house and do the same the next month. It works out so well, and we all know we get alone-time at least once a month!
Thanks to grandparents, we managed a date night at least once a month after our first child was born