Real Solutions: 20 Simple (but Surprising) Ways to Turn a Man On

5. Make the first move: "My wife and I were looking at pictures during one of our first dates. While we were sitting on the bed she put her arm around me. It was so genuine and warm a gesture. That's when I knew we really had a good thing going. I wanted to be with her sexually, and not just for a one-night stand!" --Sam, company president, 45

6. Don't try to be sexy: "When my girlfriend wears a large T-shirt with no pants or something else casual around the apartment, it's very sexy. The sexiest things she does, she does without realizing it." --Josh, 26, business school student

7. Take a bath for two: "The sexiest thing my wife ever did was ask me to take a bubble bath. It was out of the ordinary, sensual and very relaxing." --Joe, 34, publicist

8. Plan your next date: "One day my girlfriend (who is now my wife) came over to my place for our date and brought me flowers. Then, she took me to a nice restaurant. After dinner, she took me to a jazz bar and bought me a few drinks. Then, she took me home and ... that was a great night! It was very seductive to have a woman spend so much time planning an evening with me. She showed me that she knew what I liked, was willing to go out on a limb and was into the relationship for more than just what I could give." --Todd, 27, social worker

9. Do a (private) striptease: "My girlfriend performed a strip show just for me, but wouldn't let me touch her at all. I had to obey the 'club rules.' It drove me crazy. Good thing there weren't any bouncers!" --Matt, 27, music agent

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