20 Surprising Truths about Depression

I was surprised by how much depression has to do with anger and the inability to express it appropriately. I used to perceive a huge gap between what should be and what was, and the size of that gap was the measure of my anger. Since I had been taught in my family of origin that expressing one's anger was wrong, I turned it inward upon myself instead, and became depressed. I've learned that, although I cannot control someone else's anger, I can do something about mine. I've developed a strong faith in a very big concept of God, and I now know that everything happens for a reason. What should be already is, because God is running the show, not me. --lovespirit_nj

What surprised me most was how many people think it's something we can just turn off and on at will. People still tell me that if I just think the right thoughts I'll be fine. Others think I'm feeling like this on purpose. Very few realize it's a chronic health condition, no different from diabetes. If a diabetic thinks the right thoughts, will he or she stop needing insulin? Of course not! Depression is no different. --marykkr

It is so amazingly true that people just don't get it until they go through it. Sometimes, I honestly wish the people around me who have no clue could get a little taste of it. It really is a disease. Part of it may be the way you think or your personality, but I definitely feel that it's often beyond your control, no matter how positive you try to be. --ewm12

What surprised me most about depression was how bloody hard it is to explain! There is no possible way to explain to people what it's like to wake up in the morning and have absolutely NO desire to get out of bed. It also surprised me how it absolutely takes over your entire life. Everything from relationships to your job/school is affected. It's impossible to contain until you get treatment. It's like you're inside a big balloon that's getting blown up, pushing things farther and farther away from you, and the balloon membrane acts like a filter and all you hear is muffled words saying negative things. What a rotten place to be! --cl-silverlightcanada

Connect with Us
Follow Our Pins

Yummy recipes, DIY projects, home decor, fashion and more curated by iVillage staffers.

Follow Our Tweets

The very dirty truth about fashion internships... DUN DUN @srslytheshow http://t.co/wfewf

On Instagram

Behind-the-scenes pics from iVillage.

Best of the Web