Still single? So what? Summer?s almost here, so let the fun ? and the romance ? begin. Whether you?re looking for a summer fling or long-lasting love, here are 20 ways to heat up the season ahead.
1. Bring in the new: "Throw a 'new blood' party with friends. Everyone has to bring someone new, someone your friends don't already know."
2. Go dateless: "Instead of whining about not having a date, go places by yourself. Be secure in yourself and all else will follow. Someone at a summer event or party is going to see you and think, 'Wow, I wish I had her courage and confidence.' And that will lead you to greater things. I went to the movies alone (it was relaxing), to my class reunion alone (made quite the impression), and to a beach party alone, which is where I met Mr. Right
3. Have fun: "Have you ever heard the saying 'You'll meet someone when you least expect it?' It's true, it will happen when it happens. In the meantime, have fun doing things for you. Go out with friends, have one too many and laugh a little too loud. Who knows, maybe the laughter will catch someone's eye."
4. Get comfortable: "Remember, you have to be at peace with yourself before someone is going to be comfortable with you. When you like yourself, people will clamor to date you. You'll have so many men you won't know what to do."
5. Ban the bar scene: "You don't have to deal with the bar and club scene if you don't want to. Buy a magazine and visit a local coffee shop or restaurant. Browse bookstores. Sit back, relax, read and look around. If you like art, visit an art gallery (and enjoy the AC!). Being single doesn't have to hold you back."
6. Have no regrets: "Make plans in advance this summer. Don't regret not having anything to do." --Sherry Amatenstein, iVillage's Dating Doyenne
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7. Go online: "I started using a couple of those Internet dating services, and it's actually working. After I rejected several interested men, I began emailing this guy that I have a lot in common with. We started talking on the phone and really liked each other, so now we are dating. It has been four dates so far and going good."
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8. Make new friends: "Make an effort to make some new women friends. That way, you'll have more people to go out and do things with."
9. Read up: "I have read several books on being a single person. Most of them have been a tremendous help. You may want to give some of them a try: The Art of Living Single by Michael Broder, Women Living Single by Lee Reilly, Being Single In A Couples' World by Xavier Amador and Living Alone and Liking It by Lyn Shahan."
10. Be bold: Believe in your dream of meeting someone wonderful and show that you really believe by taking action. Go to the party, chat and, if you meet someone special, consider inviting him out for a cup of coffee. It is the 21st century!
11. Use all the right moves: "When trying to meet Mr. or Ms. Right, you need to keep in mind the three rights: right place, right time, right attitude. Without all of those, your efforts will probably be in vain. You need to put yourself in the right place
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12. Be proactive: "Being 33 and single is sometimes tough. People ask 'Why aren't you married? ... blah blah blah.' I found myself focusing on 'poor me' until I decided to do something about it. I joined a mountain biking group and a singles outdoor activity club. Try it; what do you have to lose? Believe me, you will feel better just knowing you are doing something to change your life."
13.Pet-sit: If your friends are going away over the summer, offer to take their dog for a day or two. I have a dog who sleeps over a couple of times a year, eats her kibble in a bowl of my chicken soup, polishes off those old rinds of cheese and never forgets me between visits. Short of a trip to the pound and the long-term commitment of adoption, pet-sitting is cheap, unconditional love.
14.Get personal: "I have at least five friends who have met their spouses and spouses-to-be through personal ads. Where I live it's a really popular way to meet other singles, since we're in a rural area and everyone lives far apart. Placing or answering a personal ad is a great way to meet people, especially for the over-30 crowd who don't have the desire to mingle in bars."
15.Start a recycling (men) program: "Throw a 'leftover guy' party. Ask everyone invited to bring a dish and a dishy guy. It doesn't have to be a formal Saturday-night type thing; you can make it a casual brunch or backyard barbecue instead."
16. Be a blind date queen: "If people say they have the 'perfect friend for you,' let them set you up."
17.Shop till you drop: "Think of shopping as a great way to meet men. It is a great way to get out there, be seen and meet new people. The best department to browse? Men's!"
18. Join up: "Join a club devoted to one of your hobbies or interests. It's a great way to meet both men and women."
19.Take up golf: "I've heard it works to go to a certain type of place to meet a certain type of man. For example, if you like musicians, go to concerts or music festivals; if you want to meet a businessman, try taking up golf."
20. Make the first move: "Make Sadie Hawkins your patron saint and reach out to the man who makes you quiver. Real men love women who make the first move."