3. Be Sensitive to Events that Might Trigger Sadness
Tina and her sister-in-law got pregnant around the same time, but Tina miscarried after eight weeks. She felt like she was healing—until her baby niece was born. “The loss has resurfaced full force,” wrote Tina. “Everyone around me is so happy...What hurts is that no one seems to remember my little angel who left this world before he even entered it.”
How to help: Many consider losing a child, even by miscarriage, the most painful experience imaginable. Grieving can take much longer than expected, and may come in blindsiding waves triggered by reminders such as anniversaries or births. Be sensitive to that. Pay attention—does your friend look forlorn? Ask her if she’d like to talk, and let her know you’re there to listen.