They also vacation together, and twice when Emily has been between jobs, she's hightailed it to Vancouver.
What else makes it work? "Ryan is big on romantic gestures. On our first Valentine's Day he carved our initials in a tree, then took a black-and-white photo of it and mailed it to me." But grand gestures aside, Emily's secret of success is simple: "We're ideally matched even though it's geographically inconvenient."
Obviously Emily and Ryan made an effort early on to overcome that barrier. "Long-distance couples have to go the extra mile to articulate what they're feeling since there are no visual or tactile cues," Emily said. "We're mushier than many couples who live in the same ZIP code. We talk a lot and write a lot and make our presence felt. And we both trust that the other is committed to making this work until we can figure out a way to both live in the same city."
That will hopefully happen soon. In the meantime, do mushy conversations mean phone sex? Said Emily: "No comment!"
"Making a long-distance relationship work takes extra care, time and commitment. This one works because this couple are making a concerted effort to remain in touch, be thoughtful, romantic and even sexual though apart. They also have the necessary trust in each other not to feel insecure about what the other is doing when they're apart."