Welcome to our final stretch on the road to great sex. Have you done all the other steps? If not, stop here and do yourself a favor by going back and doing them. If so, hang on as we round the corner into the last step along the way: fantasy.
In my many years of coaching women and couples, I am always amazed to find that most women (unless they are seasoned explorers of their eroticism) have a tough time with sexual fantasies. Many have not read any of the recent explosion of books for, and often by, women. Some of the titles you may want to peruse are My Secret Garden and Women on Top by Nancy Friday; the Herotica series, edited by Susie Bright; the Masquerade series by Charlotte Rose and Shared Intimacies by Barbach and Levine. These books will give you new ideas, reinforce your right to fantasize about anything you desire and add zest to your lovemaking.
Did you know that fantasy doesn't necessarily lead to behavior? If you're afraid to fantasize because you think it automatically means that you have to act out your thoughts and maybe go beyond your comfort zone, don't worry. Fantasies are ideas
If you have never thought about your own sexual fantasies, this is your chance. Get out your Love Journal and set aside some time to do the following this week: First, write down a list of memories that you can use as sexual fantasies. Use images of real-life alluring men that have rung your bell, or movie stars you've seen in roles that struck a chord in you, such as Mel Gibson in