Learning how to be a good kisser takes intention and skill. Try different kissing styles and techniques with your lover. One exercise worth trying is to breathe into each other's mouths, consciously sharing breaths. At first, you may feel afraid to lose your breath, but then, gradually, you may learn to appreciate the intimacy this evokes. Keeping eye contact (not closing your eyes) while you kiss also heats up the connection. In his landmark book, Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch talks about wall-socket sex between couples who are daring enough to go for the highest levels of intimacy they can tolerate. This usually involves what he calls "eyes open" sex. Kissing with your eyes open is a great way to start this process and deepen your sexual bond. From there, you can build to having "eyes open" sex. Something wonderful to look forward to!
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