30 Days of Great Sex Love Lesson

Step 3: Get in Touch with Your Sensual Side

In the last step, we talked seriously about passionate kissing and foreplay as kindling for great sex. Now, we're going to start focusing on your sensual self. We all have five basic senses -- sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. Believe it or not, by engaging all of your senses you will begin to move into a new realm of your own sexuality, and your lover will thank you in more ways than you can imagine! Trust me.

Here are some creative ways to engage your five senses this week. Do these exercises and watch your sex life improve.

Sight: Buy yourself something sexy to wear and encourage your partner to do the same. For you, it may be a black velvet, slinky dress or a shimmering teddy from your favorite lingerie store. Even a good push-up bra that really shows your cleavage can do the trick. Or you may choose to wear a rhinestone chain or Indian silver anklet to anchor your sense of femininity at all times. For your lover, try a pair of those yummy pure silk boxer shorts. Using something physical to connote an emotional or psychological state is a good tool.

Sound: Talking to each other during intimate moments can do wonders for your sex life. But not everyone is comfortable doing this. Women often tell me they are shy or embarrassed to talk to their mate during or about sex. To build confidence, work on your voice privately. Record yourself into a tape recorder while you practice saying sexy things to your partner, such as, "I want you to ____ me," or, "Tell me what you want me to do to you." After listening to yourself, work on changing your tone as you see fit, to create a more sensual style.

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