You're smart, fun, good-looking, easy to get along with and comfortable around men. So how come it seems like the rest of the world has a boyfriend and is enjoying lots of regular sex, while you've been tucking yourself in night after night for months, even years? Here are four possible explanations ‑- and how to improve your odds of getting some.
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It's been too long between boyfriends
People in long-term relationships are accustomed to having someone around. They're used to touching, talking and thinking for two. Being with someone feels familiar to them ‑- and studies show that human beings crave familiarity. However, being intrinsically lazy, our brain doesn't really care if "familiar" isn't actually a nice place to be ‑- for example, single and lonely. That's why the girl who's just broken up with her long-term love tends to find a new boyfriend rapidly, while your single girlfriend stays perennially single. So if you've been single for ages without so much as a drunken one-night stand, you'll need to shock your system into change. Breaking the drought not only makes you feel relieved ("Maybe I will find another boyfriend after all"), it also prepares you for change.
Now, it's not my place to tell you to get out there, grab the first half-decent guy who looks your way, flirt your bottom off and slam him against the nearest wall for a game of tonsil-hockey (and maybe a quick feel). But that could be exactly what you need. Your brain has forgotten what touching, kissing and sex feel like, so it's stopped telling you to get out there and find it. Give it a shot: Consider having a few flings-for-fling-sake. You'll send off far more relaxed, sexy vibes because you'll feel attractive and desirable again.