Now that your look's right, evaluate your body language. Stand and walk straight and tall, arms loose by your side rather than crossed. Don't hold your drink up as a barrier ‑- hold it waist height instead. Make eye contact and smile. Don't stand or sit rigidly. Change your position every few minutes and try not to sit or stand symmetrically. Put the weight on one hip. Put your hand on your hip. Tilt your head to the side. Practice sexy ways to stand, walk and sit in front of the mirror. Would you approach yourself? Then you're on the right track.
You don't really like men
"Who me? I love men!" I can hear you exclaiming it from here. I don't doubt that lots of your best friends are men and that you adore your brother. But these are men you know and trust. All it takes is a few bad experiences ‑- a lover in your past who treated you badly, the guy you thought was really going to come through then didn't call or simply a series of disappointments ‑- and before you know it, your core trust in men falters. You start expecting the worst in them, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You think you're radiating cool confidence, but really you're sending toxic waves of suspicion and aggression designed to protect you against further hurt.
If you treat men as the enemy, they will behave like the enemy. However, if instead you approach every guy with an open mind and assume he's a good person until proven otherwise, you'll bring out the best in him. Save the "I don't put up with that" speeches until he actually does something you won't put up with. Then say your peace in a calm, no-nonsense voice without histrionics. If you put yourself back in the power position, you'll have nothing to fear. Realize this: Start liking men once again and they'll like you back. It's that simple.Don't miss out on any fun!