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How to Stay Connected with Your Husband
Make Time to Talk
After the kids are asleep on the weekends, my husband and I often just sit in the living room with the lights off and talk quietly and unwind.
Create Couple Time
Go to bed early sometimes. Turn off the phone. Decline some social invitations to make just couple time. Have at least one night a week be "couple time." Email and talk during the workday. Put the kids to bed early.
Make Lunch or Dinner Dates
My husband and I go out for lunch about once a week. We email each other quite a lot during the day. We send jokes and links to Websites. We have even worked out some bigger issues via email, because then you have to think over your reply and not fire back some off-the-cuff response that you can never take back. We also try and plan nights out alone together.
I would say that, hands down, the years when children are young are the most difficult for a marriage. The most important thing to remember is that times will change and little ones won't be so dependent as time goes on. Although most of us struggle with this, the single most important thing one can do to maintain a healthy relationship is make sure you have a healthy sexual relationship. Lock doors, sneak into other rooms after the kids are in bed, whatever you have to do.
My husband and I generally talk, read or watch TV together after the kids have gone to bed. We'll also wash/dry/fold laundry and sometimes do other chores during the commercials. Each of us has some nights where our own activities are scheduled: He has church folk group practice on Wednesday nights. I go to school fundraiser meetings or the occasional "girls night out." And, of course, there are sometimes where what we do to entertain ourselves after the kids are asleep is not fit for discussion in a family-oriented Website!