Could answers to your relationship problems be right under your nose? Kathy Dawson, author of Diagnosis: Married, has practical solutions to prevent stress and create a healthier environment -- and a happier marriage.
Let each other take the floor and have your say
"No one likes being interrupted. If you, your mate or both of you are interrupting, you can't possibly be listening to what the other is saying. For genuine, open communication to happen between you, you have to get down from your soapbox long enough to let each other say what you'd like to say."
Just do it:
The next time you and your mate interrupt each other, reach for anything handy to represent the "floor." Use this technique to help you both listen instead of interrupt.
Clutter breeds a stressful environment
"Both Maria and Preston were experts at accumulating clutter. Neither Preston nor Maria could honestly blame each other for neither was particularly neater than the other. The stress and tension they created by letting clutter overtake their environment put a strain on their relationship that was easily avoidable."
Just do it:
Set time aside with your mate to do an inventory of clutter in your home. As you walk from room to room, own your own "stuff" by acknowledging what clutter belongs to you. Once you've designated whose debris is whose, place your clutter in a strategically placed collection basket. Once every week, on an agreed upon day, clean out your clutter.