5 Sex Sins That Can Ruin Your Love Life -- and How to Avoid Them

Sex Sin #2: Fear of Experimentation

Your partner wants you to dress up as a waitress? Lick pumpkin pie from his navel? Play a game of naked Twister? Resist your usual knee-jerk reaction, and instead of asking, "What planet are you from?" consider it. We all march to the beat of a different drum, and if that's what does it for him, why not indulge him? Just because the "average" population doesn't appear to need or want the same, who cares? So long as no one is being hurt physically or emotionally, and it doesn't become a necessity (which then moves it into fetish territory), aim to be a healthily adventurous Anything Goes Girl. Nothing kills a sex life faster than a partner who refuses to push herself out of her sexual comfort zone. If you refuse every time he suggests something new, you're sending a clear signal: Your pleasure and needs aren't important to me. Judge him for suggesting something "bad" or "shocking," and you virtually guarantee he'll never propose doing anything even vaguely interesting ever again.

 

Get over It

Adopt this motto: "If I have no real moral objections to what my partner wants to try, but just don't fancy it, I will try it once." If you would truly rather get a root canal than even attempt it, try to recapture the spirit of what he's suggesting -- role play, dirty talk, etc. -- but with different specifics. Or simply come up with a different idea that's just as experimental, so (a) he doesn't feel rejected and (b) you're still broadening your sexual horizons.

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