2. Never take each other for granted. People need to feel needed. Your husband wants to know that he plays an important role in your marriage and you need to feel the same way about yourself. You should both tell
3. Talk, talk, talk. One of Equality in Marriage's main objectives is to spark dialogue between couples, to get them to start discussing everything from having kids to maintaining a joint bank account, preferably before walking down the aisle. (In fact, 40 percent of the hits to the Equality in Marriage Web site are for the "before marriage" section.) But married couples benefit from all of this advice, too. It's never too late to improve communication. Wendt's number one piece of advice for all couples is to speak openly and honestly about all the day-to-day issues that will inevitably arise as you share your lives. How many kids do you want? Will one of you stay home to raise them? If so, who? What are your philosophies about money? Who will take out the garbage? And the list goes on.
4. Get a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement. For those who say this is unromantic or pessimistic, Wendt disagrees. "You wouldn't put a new roof on your house without a contract, would you?" she asks. She argues that getting a prenuptial agreement before you are married or postnuptial agreement afterward protects your marriage and gives your relationship a better chance of surviving. Educating yourself about the legal system is a necessity for today's married couples, says Wendt. According to a recent Equality in Marriage survey, 70 percent of married people reported they had no knowledge of the laws regarding marriage and divorce in their state