5. Keep the intimacy alive even after you become parents. Couples sometimes lose sight of each other when they start having kids. But Wendt says that's precisely when husbands and wives need to make an extra effort to find couple time. They need to continue to discuss the relationship, work on making it better and simply enjoy each other. In other words, go on dates, make out with each other and be sure to schedule fun. After all, this intimacy is the glue that keeps a husband and wife together.