Now, if you wish to avoid the soap opera angle and you've got the wine and silk sheets at your place, pay close attention. Rather than diving in and simply assuming you've got everything figured out, I suggest you take the following tips to heart. They're simple and straightforward, and like the previous set of rules for sleeping at her place, when sleeping at your place, these tips will help you maintain that casual relationship. And remember, above all else, that the Player never disrespects women, so at no point can this involve hurtful or insulting maneuvers. There may be a wee bit of deception involved, but if you don't think there's some of that in every relationship, you're too naive to live anyway.
Avoid romantic preparation
Men will often prepare accordingly for a night of romance; they'll break out the wine, silk sheets, candles, rose petals, and a variety of fragrances. Everything will be clean -- including a hands-and-knees scrubbing of the bathtub -- and the entire place will be a female paradise, all designed for the express purpose of giving her a very special night. However, this is a long-term boyfriend tactic, not a Player strategy. Romance and lust are two very different things, so in order to avoid sending the wrong signals when sleeping at your place, pass on the typically sensitive preparation. This isn't a license to bring her back to a pigsty (you should always clean when company comes calling) but while a filthy apartment gives a bad impression, candles and rose petals all indicate intimacy. This isn't the approach you wish to take, especially if it's the first time she's spending the night. Furthermore, if you simply keep the place presentable without being even remotely assuming, you'll maintain that crucial neutrality.
You don't want to take things too far because you're risking a disinterested and apathetic attitude. Walk the fine line between distant and amorous; don't turn your pad into a place that seems conducive to a proposal, but make sure you keep her attention. Charm and social graces don't take a backseat in this scenario, chief.
Keep her car at your place
This may appear to be an innocuous and even flat-out bizarre tip, but you have to utilize your powers of deduction here. First and foremost, having her own transportation tends to make her feel more comfortable; she always has an escape option. This is especially helpful if she's "sleeping over" for the first time.
Secondly, in giving her the opportunity to come and go as she pleases, you're eliminating the possibility of an inevitably long and meaningful evening. If she has no way to leave -- even if she has no intention of leaving -- the implication is painfully obvious: you're planning to have her for the whole night, and that carries more implications. It just doesn't appear to be a casual move, and the whole point of the casual relationship centers on "keeping options open." Lastly, if you actually come right out and make the suggestion ("Hey, why don't you just follow me back to my place?"), it could mean you actually expect her to leave first thing in the morning. This isn't a complex thing, and isn't necessarily a make-or-break deal. It could be as simple as having her drive for the evening, and then suggesting a late-night rendezvous at your place. See? Easy.
Trust me, all this makes more sense than you may initially believe. It's a smart move if she's sleeping at your place.