5 Ways to Create Joy in Your Relationship

Usually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this person is the right one, that we aren't repeating mistakes of the past, and that finally we will receive the love, support, companionship and admiration we have been searching for. Each person has a shopping list of hopes and expectations, and while those are being fulfilled, everyone is happy.

Although this is kind of approach to relationships is normal, it usually brings disappointment because happiness is fleeting. It comes and goes. It has to, because happiness depends upon circumstances. When things go well, we are happy. When we get what we want, when the sun is shining, others value us, our boss is approving, our boyfriend finally pops the question, these are moments of happiness.

Joy is different. It doesn't come and go. It doesn't depend upon outer circumstances to be present. When things are difficult, when our hopes are not fulfilled, it is still possible to feel joyful. Joy is a premade, positive decision we have already committed to about ourselves, and the world we live in. It involves taking responsibility for our lives and relationships.

How much joy do you have in your love life? If you want to increase it and make your relationship stronger than ever, here are five ways to find joy in relationships:

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