Discover the Art of True Giving
There is a huge difference between really giving to another and giving so you can get something back in return. When we are secretly waiting for reciprocity, it is nothing more than manipulation. On the other hand, joy is based upon true giving. When we learn to give sincerely, it is almost impossible to be upset or sad. The giving itself is its own return.
True giving means generosity with no strings attached. It's giving your partner something that he would like, not something that pleases you. It means taking time to know the person and being willing to meet his needs. Some people fear giving, feeling that they will be drained or stripped bare. But the opposite is true. The more we give, the more we have. Giving brings a sense of fullness and kindness, the basis for the development of joy.
There are many things that can be given besides physical objects. Your partner needs everything from time and attention to acknowledgment and the chance to be right about something. Want to put this plan into action? Make a list of all the things you can give your partner. Then make a list of the things you'd like him to give you. When you see these two lists side by side, you'll see the difference between what you'd give someone in the hopes of satisfying your own needs and what would truly make your partner happy.