First you have to get your husband to admit he snores, says psychologist Shelby Freedman Harris, Psy.D., director of the Behavioral Sleep Medicine Program at Montefiore Medical Center’s Sleep-Wake Disorders Center in New York City. If he’s in deep denial, tape a night of snoring (with his permission). Then explain that his snoring isn’t just affecting your sleep, but it could be a sign of a more serious problem. “Is he waking with headaches? Having weight gain, feeling a little confused in the morning, almost choking or gasping in his sleep? That’s when it might be more severe than just snoring,” says Dr. Harris.