2. Being "In Love" Will Change
Many women expect to get the same feeling of excitement and infatuation every time their partner walks through the door, day after day, year after year. They want to miss him terribly if he is gone, no matter how much it hurts. But in a real marriage, there are times when you will have these romantic feelings and other times when they will fade into the background. This does not mean you aren't in love anymore. Love is based on a solid foundation of mutual respect and sharing, not just deep emotions. Although it is wonderful and important to create opportunities for romantic time together, your daily life in a marriage requires a much deeper understanding of the more fundamental aspects of lasting love. Love is often tested in the fire, and frequently sacrifice is needed.
3. Marriage Does Not Mean You Are Dependent
Yes, it takes two people to be married. But it's important to be who you are, to be different from your partner, and have a life of your own. This way, you won't run the risk of feeling stifled, and the more you will love him.
It's also smart to give your partner his private space. Love always includes trust. The more your partner is able to enjoy time with friends or family, the more he will enjoy being with you. It's good to be two, separate, whole people. From that basis, more love can grow.
4. Anger Will Keep You Together
It's no secret that when partners bottle up their needs, angry feelings will explode later. But some people think a fight means that love has gone out the window. This is not the case in a real relationship. Being angry is part of being close. Frustration is not a sign that your partner doesn't love you, or that you don't love him. It's a sign that you're both ready for honest, but careful, communication. Talking about your relationship on a regular basis is truly the heart and soul of every good marriage. When you recognize irritations or resentment as it arises, and discuss your feelings freely, the anger will not only diminish, but your relationship will get better! If you are angry and fighting all the time, the quality of your marriage is slowly being eroded. But this happens because anger goes on for too long. When you use your feelings as an opportunity to communicate more, anger can bring you closer together, instead of further apart.