Editor's Note:It's no secret that women are more often looking for commitment than men are. And it can be frustrating to meet a guy you like only to find out he's “not looking for anything serious.” Why are guys so fond of casual relationships, anyway? For a full explanation, keep reading. You may even discover ways that you could benefit from keeping things casual, too.
No Bad Feelings
Breakups are hard, and while it's certainly up for debate, some will claim they're even tougher on women. Nobody wants to suffer through a nasty split, especially when it blows up and turns two people into snarling, hateful animals. But hey, if you hadn't noticed, casual sex-only flings never end up this way; you may breakup, but you do so with a wan “oh well” grin rather than a “God, I hate you”glare. Therefore, in order to spare both of you the possibility of an experience no human wants to deal with, you place it squarely on the table. This is a subject that can be broached at just about any time in an early relationship (provided it hasn't already advanced, of course), and it's a relatively safe discussion topic. While it may sound a bit cowardly, she'll also view your stance as one of compassion. And if she doesn't—she's upset by the theory and calls you out for being “unable to commit”—you know it's time to leave anyway.
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Bed Buddies Have All the Fun
As you move forward with any new and ultra-delicious partner, it's best to keep the focus on the no-strings-attached fun, and don't ever do anything that might hint at the possibility of something more. Meeting up for an evening shouldn't translate to a romantic dinner and dancing; it should remain firmly cemented in hitting the clubs, maybe catching a movie (it can't be a chick flick) and back to your place for yet another hot, silk-encased encounter. Gifts aren't completely out of the question, but we're talking about lingerie, not flowers and jewelry. Provided you maintain this style and pace throughout your adventures, any woman will get the picture very quickly, which works in your favor. Essentially, you're conveying your desire and intentions with your actions, and this doesn't require any sort of conversation or discussion. If it's not what she wants, she'll take off. Simple.
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