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4. Support Each Other as Parents
Parenting is one of the most invisible jobs there is. It is important that you talk about how best to support each other as parents. You can regularly acknowledge with your partner the gifts he/she brings to your child and appreciate her/him as a parent.
5. Plan for Regular, Consistent Time Alone With Baby
It can be difficult to fully discover yourself as a parent when the other parent is there. You may feel self-conscious, you may "give-up" and ask for help; the other parent may feel like rescuing or giving advice. Having some regular time alone with baby will allow each parent to discover their own unique set of parenting skills and to build the confidence that will allow them to be a "full" parent, even when their partner is around.
6. Talk With Your Partner About Your Parenting Goals
Most of us start the discussion about parenting with what kinds of diapers and car seats we should get. It is also important to have some discussions about the vision we hold for our family. You could start by each writing answers to some of these questions and then discussing your answers.
1. What do I hope our child will learn in our family?
2. How do I see my role as a parent? What kind of a parent do I want to be? How much time and what kind of interactions do I want with my child?
3. What beliefs do I have about what mothers/fathers (the other parent) should do?
4. How would I like it to be handled if you disagree with me about something I am doing with our child?
5. How could I best support you as a parent?
6. How could you best support me as a parent?
7. Talk to Other Families Who Share Parenting
Really sharing the care of your child with your partner poses many challenges as well as gifts. Talk to other parents who are committed to sharing the responsibility for their children. Ask them how they do it, what obstacles they have encountered and how they have handled them.