K has suffered from anxiety disorder for years, but when she was diagnosed with lung cancer, her anxiety became almost too much to bear. “I find people look at you differently when they find out you have an incurable disease,” wrote K. “I know it's because they can't do anything to help but it hurts when they walk away from you.”
How to help: “I need to know you’re here for me” is one of the top statements that people with cancer want others to know. Too often feelings of fear, discomfort, or powerlessness keep friends or family away from those who need them most. Ask yourself if you’re finding excuses to stay away. You don’t need to say anything; just being there and listening matter most. If you can’t be there physically, send a card, gift, or letter.