You know your man loves you, but would it kill him to show it once in a while in the form of a beautiful gift? If you've been asking yourself that very question, you're not alone. Even the most caring, considerate men can be completely incapable of such gestures. But don't lose hope! There are ways to motivate your man to shower you with thoughtful presents. Read these helpful hints from iVillagers, and that diamond bracelet will be yours in no time!
Spell It Out:
This year I gave my husband a list of exactly what I wanted for Christmas, i.e., perfume, name, brand, store where to buy it, which counter to go to, the sales girl's name.... And he got me everything on the list and more! Granted it wasn't really romantic, but I was surprised and pleased. My husband told me afterward that he was grateful for the list -- it kept him from buying something I didn't like or want, and it gave him ideas for the future.
Give Advanced Notice:
When a holiday is around the corner, I lead my loved one to the calendar, circle the date in red and tell him how important that day is to me. Then I tell him the type of gift I want and that it will "make me the happiest woman on God's green earth." Never fails. In return, I work hard every day to make him know how much I love and appreciate him.
Explain the Results:
Valentine's Day is my favorite day. I am not a high-maintenance material girl, but I must have a dozen roses delivered to my office on Valentine's Day. If I'm dating someone, I let him know how deliriously happy he will make me by sending those flowers. My experience is that men are glad to do something that makes me so happy, and they appreciate not having to guess what I want.
Call in the Troops:My husband has little time to shop and doesn't like it anyway. So I have enlisted the help of my mom. I told her I wanted earrings with my son's birthstone for Mother's Day, so she put the bug in my husband's ear and offered to help him figure it out. It worked, and the earrings are beautiful. I used the same method to get my new wedding band. My mom and husband teamed up for Christmas last year and had a beautiful band made (they stole my old ring a couple of times and made me think I lost it).
Make a Wish List:
I went to my favorite jeweler, made a wish list and placed it, open-faced, on my husband's dresser with a love letter attached. He loved getting the list because it helped him get me exactly what I want -- no guessing involved! That's what all men really want to do when they spend money on you. To inspire future giving, be sure show off the present to your friends when he's nearby so he can feel like he mined, cut, polished and mounted it himself!
Surprise Each Other:
My husband and I both make lists of things we think are romantic, then we swap them and put them away. When least expected, one of us will pull out the list and surprise the other. You forget about the list after a few weeks, then -- bam! -- you get a surprise romantic evening from Hubby!
Give to Get:In order for your man to be romantic and present you with presents, you must do the same. Stop at a corner flower stand and personally deliver roses to his office. Try buying some sexy cards and leaving them in his briefcase. Only a really insensitive guy would not return the favor.
Keep Him Happy:
Sorry, I've got to be blunt: The way to a man's heart is ... NOT through his stomach! If you keep him sexually happy, he'll do anything for you. It is definitely the key to relationship bliss -- and great presents!
Clue Him In:
Girlfriends, please. When you want your husband to shower you with gifts, simply tell him. Let him know that you want a vacuum cleaner for Valentine's Day about as much as he wants a vasectomy! I have learned that he will get you exactly what you want when you are straight with him. Now, if he still gets you a gift fit for Martha Stewart, then withhold you-know-what. He'll get the picture!