Pregnancy & Parenting
Adoption Message Board
Welcome to the Adoption board for all those interested and involved in adoption. Whether you are considering adopting or making an adoption plan, an adoptee or a birthparent who has placed a child for adoption, please join us.
Hear what women have to say about this board:
If someone asked me what I loved most about Adoption board, I'd have to say without hesitation it has been the genuine compassion and caring everyone has for each other, including everyone in the adoption triad -- birthparents, adoptive parents and adoptees. Everyone tries to provide honest opinions and openly shares experiences.
Different paths have led each of us have a connection to adoption. We laugh together, we cry together, we learn together. No concern is silly, no question is stupid. And through all this, we support each other through the inevitable highs and lows of the adoption process.
After three consecutive pregnancy losses in 2 years (two in the second trimester), we've decided to pursue adoption for our fourth. We have long felt that a child was missing from our family and believe that adoption is the path that will lead us to that missing child. We are seeking out "waiting children" for prospective matches as well.
I have found this board to be a safe, tight group that seemed to have the knowledge and attitude I needed as we started our adoption journey.
I love coming to this board because everyone is so gracious with sharing their adoption experiences -- whether it be an adoptive mom, adoptee or birthparent. I've really learned a lot about adoption through everyone's personal experiences. It also really helps to come to a board where you know you aren't the only one "waiting" to be matched. It brings joy to my heart every time someone shares when they've been matched. I know my time will come and I look forward to being able to post the details.
I had always found myself to be a private person, so I would rarely speak about our adoption process to family and friends, as I never wanted to answer the "when are you going to adopt" question. I found that question was never brought up on the Adoption board.
Our twins adoption was finalized on November 25, 2002, but I try to come and post whenever I can and continue to give support to others who are in that waiting state.
I also have a secret wish for continuing to come to this board; that someday we can all meet on a beach somewhere and have that drink that we all seem to need every now and then!
The women on this board have been absolutely wonderful and supportive. We adopted our son in an open domestic agency adoption in 2003. I have remained on this board because of the wonderful love and friendship that is here.
There are times when only those who have adopted or who are related to the adoption triad are the ones who get it. Here, I totally feel normal, because we are all a part of the adoption world in one form or another. As much as I can try and fully fit in with the non-adoptive world, there are always going to be those who act different towards me and my family, for one reason or another.
I can honestly say that without the help of these women I have met over the last seven years on the iVillage message boards, I would not be where I am today. I may never have had the courage to move onto foster and then to adopt my beautiful children. I am an adoptive mommy and dang proud of it!