Is he changing the way he dresses? Do you make love more or less often? Are there new sexual techniques being used?
Viggy: There is a name of a coworker that gets him VERY upset when mentioned.
DrBonnie: Is he more secretive and irritable and fault finding?
christas99: Hi, I just came on and have been dying to talk to someone about all the anger I hold from my husband having an affair.
DrBonnie: Viggy, that could be a warning sign.
Viggy: There was a time a few months back when the name did not make him upset at all.
DrBonnie: Are there any other signals?
Glamourgirl: I think that the best clue of all is your own gut instinct.
Viggy: Our fights are about his secretive behavior. He is distant at times and says nothing is wrong, but he does go out of his way to be nice.
DrBonnie: What secretive behavior is he denying?
Viggy: He won't talk and when I want to. He automatically thinks I am accusing him of something when I am not.
DrBonnie: Explain that if one person thinks there is a problem, then there is a problem.
Viggy: He won't tell me about things he does or has done until the last minute or weeks later.
DrBonnie: Tell him you want to connect to him, on a daily basis.
Viggy: Then I get mad and I become the bad guy for getting mad. He blames evrything on me.
DrBonnie: He needs to be taught how to inform you on a daily basis of things that are important to him,and things he does at work.
Viggy: Check in.? NO WAY! He thinks that he is in a hole as it is. If I don't question him, we get along great.