Adultery, The Forgivable Sin with Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil

Swttmy: Think my husband may still be cheating.
DrBonnie: Why?
Swttmy: He has been out the last four nights in a row.
DrBonnie: Are there the danger signs I mentioned earlier?
Swttmy: Even after I told him of my concerns, he still went away. I missed the danger signals.
DrBonnie: He really should consider your wishes and needs -- especially after the affair. It sounds like he is trying to provoke you into getting angry. How long has he not been seeing the other woman?
Swttmy: I've told him it worries me when he goes out so much but he goes anyway. DrBonnie: The first step for him is to stop. If he can't stop, then you will be tortured every night wondering whether he is with her or not. The only way the relationship can change is if he is faithful. He needs to be made aware that he cannot have it both ways.
Swttmy: I think I'm leaving.
DrBonnie: Are you leaving the marriage, or the chat, swttmy?
Glamourgirl: What are you going to do, swttmy? Can you manage on your own?
Swttmy: My marriage.
Swttmy: I don't know what to do next, but can't live like this much longer.
Glamourgirl: I can't remember whether or not you have kids?
DrBonnie: If he can't treat you with respect it means he is taking you for granted. The way to test his feelings for you is to give him a brush with death. Telling him that you love him, and would like to be with him, but only if he is faithful.
DrBonnie: It usually shakes up and wakes up the person, if he can be woken.

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