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Alcohol problems: Helping someone get treatment
There are many ways to help a person who has an alcohol use problem to get treatment. Follow these steps to help both yourself and the person with the alcohol use problem.
- Educate yourself about alcohol's effects on a person and the person's family. Learn how alcohol affects health and how it can lead to serious health problems. You can get information by contacting an alcohol and drug treatment center in your area and talking with a health professional trained in dealing with alcohol use problems.
- Allow consequences. Let the person suffer the consequences of his or her drinking behavior. Stop making excuses for the drinking. Don't take over the person's responsibilities or cover up for him or her. If you are having problems recognizing and changing your enabling behaviors, talk with a health professional or go to a support group such as Al-Anon for people affected by someone with an alcohol use problem. Allowing the person to suffer consequences might help the person realize that alcohol is causing a problem.
- Prepare to talk with the person. Talk with a health professional who deals with alcohol and drug use problems to help you prepare. Use the checklist for helping someone get treatment for an alcohol use problem to write out your plan.
- Express your concerns. Talk with the person about your concerns regarding the drinking problem, and tell him or her that you care. You might choose to talk with the person during a formal intervention. This is a carefully planned meeting in which family, friends, and coworkers try to persuade a person who has a problem with alcohol to get treatment. Some health professionals, though, believe that talking with a person who has an alcohol use problem without the help of an intervention specialist might have a negative impact on everyone involved.
- Get treatment immediately. If the person agrees to treatment, take him or her immediately. Don't wait, because the person might decide not to go after all.
- Follow through. If the person does not go to treatment, follow through with what you told the person you would do if he or she did not get treatment. Not all people with alcohol use problems consent to treatment after they have been approached with the concerns of others. But this does not mean that you (and other people involved) have failed. Your expression of concern lets the person know how much you (and other people) care. It might help the person seek treatment in the future.
- Get help for yourself. You will receive practical advice and encouragement by attending a support group for people who have been affected by someone's alcohol use problem. Two such support groups are Al-Anon and Alateen. You might also choose to speak directly with an alcohol and drug counselor for support.
Test Your Knowledge
One of the first things to do to help a person who has an alcohol use problem to get treatment is to stop your behaviors that enable the person to continue drinking.
TrueOne of the first things to do to help a person who has an alcohol use problem to get treatment is to stop enabling behaviors. Making excuses or lying for the person, taking care of the person's personal responsibilities, or covering up the person's drinking prevents the person from suffering consequences and enables him or her to continue drinking.
FalseOne of the first things to do to help a person who has an alcohol use problem get treatment is to stop enabling behaviors. Making excuses or lying for the person, taking care of the person's personal responsibilities, or covering up the person's drinking prevents the person from suffering consequences and enables him or her to continue drinking.
All attempts to help a person get treatment for an alcohol use problem work out as planned.
TrueNot all attempts to help a person get treatment for an alcohol use problem work out as planned. If the person does not go to treatment, follow through with what you told the person you would do if he or she did not get treatment. Not all people with alcohol use problems consent to treatment after they have been approached with the concerns of others. But this does not mean that you (and other people involved) have failed. Your expression of concern lets the person know how much you (and other people) care about him or her. It might help the person seek treatment in the future.
FalseNot all attempts to help a person get treatment for an alcohol use problem work out as planned. If the person does not go to treatment, follow through with what you told the person you would do if he or she did not get treatment. Not all people with alcohol use problems consent to treatment after they have been approached with the concerns of others. But this does not mean that you (and other people involved) have failed. Your expression of concern lets the person know how much you (and other people) care about him or her. It might help the person seek treatment in the future.
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| By: | Healthwise Staff | Last Revised: January 26, 2010 |
| Medical Review: | Kathleen Romito, MD - Family Medicine Peter Monti, PhD - Alcohol and Addiction | |
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