Exclusive Alicia Keys Blog: Motherhood Has Taught Me That Life Is a Balancing Act

The iVillage Guest Editor writes exclusively about how having 2-year-old son Egypt made her realize that "I will never feel like there's enough time in the world" -- and how she tries to find "Me time"!

Over and over again, I've learned that life really is a balancing act. I feel like I could metaphorically be that trapeze family I saw at Cirque du Soleil that rode and balanced two bikes with a chair between them on the tightrope. LOL! You know what I'm talking about. You could be too.

It's not easy to do it all and to do everything to the fullest. Not to mention doing it with grace. Phew... I'm tired just writing about it ;-). Finding and achieving balance is something I work at every day of my life and as a mother and a woman, I still haven't found the answer yet. Have you? If so, please email me!!! It's a challenge I face the moment I wake in the morning and until I go to bed that night. But balancing life is what makes us all human at the end of the day.

It doesn't matter how old or wise you are -- we're all in this world together, trying to keep up with our goals, responsibilities and relationships. And even with all of the super-fast technology we have, everything still takes time. I'm continuously working on how to schedule my day and get everything done without feeling stressed because I jam-packed my day! I think it's important to realize that sometimes it's not about doing it all, but instead doing a little bit of everything as much as you can. Choose a focus and work at making that your accomplishment for the day.

But at the end of the day, don't be hard on yourself if one day is easier than the next  -- it's life, it's meant to be spontaneous and enjoyed. There should be a little room for you to breathe in between all your duties. There should be at least one savoring moment a day.

As a mother, I've definitely learned that I will never feel like there's enough time in the world. Girl on Fire is the first album I worked on as a parent and let me tell you -- it is not easy saying goodbye to my son for a day, let alone traveling across the country for a show. Every minute I¹m away feels like an hour. I miss him so much! But I know that I want Egypt to understand what it means to work hard and play hard and I want him to know when it's the right time for each. I want Egypt to grow up feeling passionate about something in life the same way I'm passionate about my music.

In order to grow as a person, we must accept that we aren't perfect at all times. Sometimes we need to pick up dinner instead of cook, sometimes we need to rest instead of work out, and sometimes we need to work instead of play (or play instead of work). But for all the things we do and don't do, what matters most is that we give everything we love as much as we can without neglecting ourselves and our bodies. Sometimes having fifteen minutes of "Me time" is all you need to feel balanced, and taking it will only make you better at everything else you pour your heart into.

Here are some of my favorite things to when I need some "Me time":

- Get my nails and toes done. Instantly recharged!

- Listen to my all-time favorite song and jump on the bed or dance around the house.

- A massage (heaven!)

- A meditation where I either chant or breathe in and out calming the tempo of my breath

- Pray/give thanks.

- Watch a funny episode of my favorite TV show-- Martin, Living Single, or Friends-- and eat popcorn after Egypt has gone to bed.

How about you? What do you do when you need some "Me time" in life? Cheers to all my girls on fire finding their balance!!!

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