Ask the Sex Coach About Multiple Orgasms

Drpattisays: You must use lots of lube, go slowly and then deeply breath into the experience. You two have to learn each other's rhythm and dance and flow together. No hard pumping. Expanding your vagina? You can do this by dilating it with objects that expand it. Having lots of babies expands the vaginal walls, but is not recommended unless you want a big family.
A_M_C: What type of objects would you use?
Drpattisays: Most women have a looser vagina after giving birth. Dildos are objects that are used internally for producing pleasure and can also create an expansion of the walls.
temom: Does that help?
Drpattisays: Sure. So let's talk about female multiple orgasms or FMO. First, this is all about setting the mood and scene, on the inside and outside. Step one is always to clear the mind and get settled. And accepting that with or without a partner, you can have sex that is multiple orgasmic. I always advocate that a couple begins with relaxation. Unless the body is relaxed, there can be no real sexual pleasure. Of course there is a need for sexual tension, but that's different. That's the part that builds tension for the orgasmic release, not the start-up phase. I think that it's important to set the stage -- candles, incense, bathing rituals, aromatherapy, music, the whole enchilada. Lots of couples just expect to jump into the sack without preparation. So, preparation is essential for sex to work, especially for FMO. I think that just the act of bathing the lover's body, connecting in that way is a good start. Jumping in can be hot when there's verbal and emotional foreplay, but it's usually NOT the answer. So, go sensual next. Massage and caress each other. I always say, foreplay is the key for women and begins in the mind.

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