Drpattisays: I am going to stop here, that's enough to get you all more knowledgeable.
ICEDTEA99: Yes, it is Dr. Patti.
Drpattisays: Does anyone have questions about all of this? Sometimes a woman cannot come. Just like a man cannot get or keep an erection. Best not to focus on the goal in that case and just enjoy the sharing of pleasure with your partner or your own face in the mirror.
Terri4099: Don't you think that to achieve multiple orgasm it just takes a good partner?
A_M_C: It takes the listening skills and the communication skills of a relationship between two partners for multiples to happen.
Drpattisays: Terri, not at all. It's so intricate. It's interwoven with two bodies trying to interlock in their unique patterns. That's a romantic idea of course, but for some it is the truth. But I teach and counsel many for whom that's not the answer.
Terri4099: But if you know your partner well enough and vice versa, I think the intimacy leads to great sex no matter how many times you achieve the big orgasm.
Drpattisays: Terri, I love what you are saying, but it's not that way for everyone. That's YOUR wiring. Lucky you. I have to make a comment about intimacy and sex: Oddly enough, intimacy does NOT equal good sex for some men and women. It's too bad, but that's the way it is. Given their issues (mental/emotional/cultural/physical) some people do NOT need (or even want) intimacy for sex to work for them. If that's what works for you, then I consider you fortunate and if it's a sacred bond and a sacred act, even better. But that's not the norm.