GAB89: Dr. Patti, after my girlfriend has an orgasm, she doesn't like to have sex anymore.
Drpattisays: Gab, can you talk to her about what we discussed in here tonight? It's a belief system problem, not a reality. Although, maybe she is "sore" or tender right after sex. After a little break, you can go again. Try that. Does that make sense to you, based on her reactions?
GAB89: She gets really sensitive and gets chills when I touch her again.
Drpattisays: After a break she will lose that sensitivity. But you have to counsel her to get her to try again. If she will, have her touch herself after the orgasm. She will prove to herself that it's okay.
Ben332: Me and my girlfriend are still virgins and she's afraid to have sex with me.
Drpattisays: Are you both ready to change that? Or do you have another idea?
Ben332: I don't want to hurt her either. We've both heard alot in the locker rooms about sex being painful.
Drpattisays: It's time to learn more about sex then. Perhaps you can learn here on the boards, in chats and in articles. There is a new Website on sexuality for teens: www.teenwire.com. Check it out. Get your girlfriend to a Planned Parenthood clinic before you decide. They have great low cost/free teen counseling, too.
Ben332: I have been reading a lot. We're looking for ways to reduce the pain that seems to be inevitable for her the first time.
Drpattisays: Pain is not always there, so learn all you can.
Ben332: I've been reading the boards and there is some interesting stuff there, like how to un-invert her one nipple.