Ask the Sex Coach About Orgasms

mug_piper: Communication ?
Celestron: Trust, knowledge.
Cmtdarden: Explore with each other?
Drpattisays: Good guesses. Keep going.
Cmtdarden: Do what you are comfortable with.
CL-Tazzzzzzzzzzzz: Fun, exploration?
Drpattisays: Imagine, what is the best way to know yourself? Sexually?
Waldohuey: Individuality?
Drpattisays: Here's the answer, it may surprise you. It is MASTURBATION. That is the foundation for partner sex because it allows you to learn your own unique response pattern.
Cmtdarden: Oh that wonderful word, masturbation.
Drpattisays: The Big M is right.
Drpattisays: So, step one is to have her do a masturbation practice until she can get to her orgasm.
newstart99: Takes notes like crazy now, LOL.
Drpattisays: That is usually where the answer is found. The truth is out there or in there, in this case. Now, there are some behavioral techniques to use to achieve orgasm with a partner, too.
mug_piper: Don't you think women react differently if their partner is present though?
Drpattisays: Clitoris stimulation is the key. Directly or indirectly, either way, depending on what she discovers when she's doing solo sex that keeps her aroused is the main target. So, if a woman and a partner are having penetrative sex (penis in vagina type) and she cannot get orgasmic, often there needs to be some way to stimulate her clitoral area. So, a partner can use his/her hands/fingers, or a sexual aid, such as a vibrator, to stimulate the clitoris when he is inside. The other form of stimulation that seems to work well with some pre-orgasmic women is to increase attention paid to her breasts and nipples. Many women find that this is a highly stimulatable area of her body, one which can product intense pleasure and often kick her into orgasm. Many women often report to me that they also need to be deep kissed during penetration.

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