newstart99: Agrees with that one.
Drpattisays: There are literally nerves and chemicals that get activated during a deep kiss that stimulate the sex organs. And that facilitates orgasm. I have articles written about the PC muscles, the love muscles that can be exercised to produce orgasms, by adding this tactic to the mix. Also, sometimes a woman needs to be told that it's okay to let go. With some couples I have found that she literally needs his permission to release and a man can actually say things to her like, "Let go, honey," Or, "I want you to come now," without pressuring her, so that she feels it's safe. Again, that's only if she does not have some deep seated emotional issues/blocks that are preventing her from coming in the first place.
Czeke: Yes, Dr. Patti, the man has to encourage the woman to let go and ENJOY.
Drpattisays: Some (and I would not hesitate to say most) women need to feel a heart connection with a partner to have the most intense orgasms. Sometimes, for a woman who cannot release, she must feel the intimate love from that person to trust him/her or herself enough to let go. Remember that orgasm is a moment of suspended time and space. That orgasm is a moment of letting go. That orgasm is sometimes a spiritual union of two people, quite profound and deeply connective. And sometimes it is merely a physical release. So, let us begin with some questions.
kara86099: What are the most common reasons for not desiring sex?
mug_piper: Dr. Patti, why do there seem to be different orgasms?