Ask the Sex Coach About Orgasms

Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus is his best seller, the LL is in the back section. OP_Temom: Thank you for your information Dr Patti, I hope this helps our members on crisis board and me too, LOL.
Drpattisays: You are welcome, temom. It's one of the most successful techniques that a couple will EVER find anywhere and can be done regularly.
poobear99: My girlfriend can only archive orgasm by masturbation, how can I help her to orgasm during intercourse.
Drpattisays: That's because it's applying pressure directly to her clitoris. You could also use a finger, maybe or a sexual aid, such as a dildo that is soft and squishy like a tongue. Have you ever tried that? Or a vibrating object, such as the handheld plug-in types of vibrators, the Prelude is one, that have spinning heads that can be applied to direct areas. She may need to have that intensity of stimulation in order to get there. Once she has her first release, O, then you might not need to keep applying that pressure. So, maybe she feels pressured to "perform." She may need that stimulation or feeling of closeness/connection too. Does that help?
july2750: After 35 years of marriage, I don't know if I ever had real orgasm. Sex is okay, but nowhere near what I read about or hear from friends. Vibrators are fine but "that feeling " doesn't take long to get to and never lasts! And twice hurts!
Drpattisays: It's hard to say what's in the way. Do you hold your breath during sex? Have you ever allowed yourself to masturbate to orgasm? With or without the vibrator? And did you "feel" anything?

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