july2750: Many times! But I get there so fast and it's over. How can I make it last?
Drpattisays: Ah. So you "pop" too fast, kind of like a man with early ejaculation?
july2750: That wonderful feeling everyone talks about during sex. I only get it with a vibrator and it's over in a minute!
Drpattisays: I teach that sexual energy/tension has to build, like building the "charge" with electricity.
july2750: Yes, I guess that's what I mean.
Drpattisays: I get the feeling that perhaps you are holding your breath during sex and blocking your own flow. Try deep breathing next time and you might notice a difference, okay?
OP_Temom: Sounds like a tip worth trying for me too.
july2750: I'll definitely try.
Cmtdarden: July, let us know on the board if that works or come back next week. We will have the chat on Tuesday at the same time (due to memorial day).
Drpattisays: Let's do one more question. kara?
kara8609: I don't really have a problem with the O, but I don't have any sexual desire, how can I fix that?
mug_piper: To make a good heart and mind connection, have you considered having your partner touch you or use a vibrator on you so as to intensify orgasm? What about mutual masturbation, does that help as well?
Drpattisays: Yes, mug, that's a good method for building the close connection and also "showing" your lover how you work. It's a great way to share sexually.
Drpattisays: Thanks, keep me posted. You can post on the boards, too.
kara8609: I don't really have a problem with the orgasm, but I have a low sexual desire, how do I fix that?