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Join author Jann Blackstone Ford, founder of Bonus Families, an organization dedicated to promoting peaceful coexistence between divorced or separated parents and their new families. Becoming a bonus family does not happen over night. It takes work and determination, and each member of the family has to make the commitment.
Stepchildren come to us in all shapes and sizes with individual histories of their own. While the adult partners in a remarriage celebrate their relationship, the stepchild may still be mourning the loss of his or her old family. No matter how much time passes, this child will still harbor a secret wish that their dad and mom will eventually go back together. From the child's subconscious point of view, it may be much easier to just hate that new woman or cause enough trouble so she'll go away -- that way, the stepchild won't have to deal with all the bad feelings he doesn't understand, anyway.
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