The Rules: Surviving the Holiday Season as a New Couple

The holidays can feel overwhelming when they arrive a few months into a new relationship. Follow these rules to get through them without hurt feelings or breakup talk (12 Photos)

Norine Dworkin-McDaniel on Dec 13, 2011 at 9:51AM

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The Rules: Surviving the Holiday Season as a New Couple

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Ask For What You Want

Guys aren’t mind-readers, so, if you’ve got specific ideas about how you’d like to see the holidays unfold with him, put on your big girl pants and speak up. That way even if things don’t play out the way you want, knowing where his head’s at can at least minimize hurt feelings. For instance, him not inviting you to spend the holidays with his parents may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with his own family traditions. “My boyfriend always goes skiing with his parents on Christmas day,” says Natasha Burton, co-author of The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags: Relationship Warning Signs You Totally Spotted But Chose to Ignore. “Since I want to do the whole thing with the tree and the presents with my parents and brother, him not inviting me for Christmas isn’t a big deal because his family doesn’t really celebrate.”

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