Playing (Shower) Games
If guests don't know each other well, games can help break the ice. If your baby's name hasn't been made public, let guests try to guess what name you chose. Consider creating an adoption-themed trivia game. Give guests two minutes to list famous people who are/were adoptive parents or adopted children '- like Angelina Jolie and Gerald Ford '- or create a mix of questions involving both general adoption trivia and more personal information ("Name the agency Bob and Sue are using").
A Little Gift Guidance
Most people know what to buy for a newborn, but if you're adopting an older baby or toddler, your guests may be uncertain about what you'll need. Consider creating a registry or offering some suggestions to guide your guests toward things you'll really use.
Your hosts may also ask guests to provide a second set of mini-gifts that fit a certain theme. If you'll need to travel to get your baby, they may request that everyone bring trial-sized toiletries, travel games, pre-paid calling cards and other on-the-road essentials. If you're adopting from an orphanage, you may need to provide a donation, and guests can contribute medications, blankets and other goods to bolster your gift.
Traditional with a Twist
A shower is a chance for friends and family to share the joy of your new stage of life. Whether you favor the traditional tea-and-tarts variety or a co-ed, kid-friendly, backyard barbecue, your hosts will most likely be happy to work with your vision of the perfect party to commemorate your soon-to-be parenthood.
Finally, no matter how you celebrate, don't forget to give thanks. Designate a close friend or relative to keep a list of what each guest gave you, so that you can send out thank-you notes after the party. And remember to choose a special gift for each of your thoughtful hosts to show your gratitude.
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