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Breaking the breakup news
If you've determined that a child care relationship has to end, there are a few ways to achieve this. If the sitter that you are using is relatively new, then you can simply not call him or her for more jobs. But if your caregiver has been with you for a few months, talk with him or her in person or over the phone to let her know why the relationship is not working. If you plan to tell your sitter during a job that you don't plan to use him or her anymore, wait until the end of the job to talk.
Be firm and consistent
A key aspect to cutting the cord is to remain firm and consistent in your stance. You can soften the blow with a leadd-in sentence such as, "I think that this relationship just isn't right for both of us right now." Follow with clearly defined reasons why your relationship isn't working, but beware of getting too stuck on small details that may lead to protestations from your sitter. And although it may be an easy way out, don't lie. Saying you're leaving for a long vacation doesn't solve the problem '- it just means that you'll hide every time you see her in the supermarket.
Once you've bid your sitter adieu, don't crawl back. If you've got an unexpected event soon after your chat, don't cave in and call your old sitter, no matter how desperate you are. It confuses both her and your children.