Surprising 'Bachelor' Revelations on '20/20'

ABC's promos for The Bachelor have a long history of insulting our intelligence. Remember the clip of Tenley Molzahn telling Jake Pavelka she's pregnant? (Which turned out to be a tossed-off joke?) So it's no shocker ABC's ad for its 20/20 special, Inside The Bachelor: Stories Behind The Rose, promised "the most shocking and memorable moments in Bachelor history" and "some never before seen Bachelor surprises."

Of course, I watched the show anyway! And I'm here to say: They delivered -- to an extent. Although we got no more dish on what really happened between Rozlyn Papa and the mysterious ABC producer who lost his job over her, I give creator and exec producer Mike Fleiss credit for confirming some long-suspected, behind-the-scenes details. Some interesting tidbits:

1. Why Jake picked Vienna Girardi: 20/20 cohost Chris Connelly explained, "Tenley just didn't seem to be able to unfasten Jake's seatbelt quite like Vienna…Proof to some of a time-honored Bachelor love lesson: 'Lust conquers all.'"

2. There are two private, camera-free rooms in the mansion. Former season 4 contestant (and ABC special correspondent) Melissa Rycroft showed viewers one, the master bathroom, where she said "we would get ready together for dates and rose ceremonies," and revealed,  "We were our own chefs, our own housekeepers, and our own makeup artists.” Touring the bedrooms, we saw a shockingly small closet five women share. For two months, contestants are in "total isolation from the outside world. No laptops, no ipods, no tvs, no phones."

3. Host Chris Harrison used to think his scripted lines were stupid. "For a while I fought it," he said. "Everyone knows there’s one rose. This is stupid. I don’t want to say, ‘This is your final rose tonight.’ But now I embrace it."

4. Season 1 Bachelorette Trista and Ryan Sutter's wedding cost nearly $4 million, and the couple pocketed a cool million on top. Six years later, they live a private life in Colorado, where he's a firefighter, and she's a stay-at-home mom to 2-year-old Max and 8-month-old Blakesley.

5. Good TV trumps all. After a season 1 clip, when a contestant's panic attack required an ambulance, Fleiss said, "We weren’t sure going into the series whether or not the women would really care, whether they would really compete for the love of one guy.... And once we started seeing girls hyperventilating and what not, we knew it was working." And on his seemingly heartless decision to let Rycroft get dumped on national TV, he said, "We’re making a television show here that’s watched by millions of viewers faithfully, and to deprive them of that moment would have been unfair."

6. But at least Fleiss admitted -- finally someone admitted! -- the contestants aren't all there to find romance. "We know that there are women and men not looking for love but angling for their big show-biz break," he said. "Whether or not someone is there for the right reasons, you really don’t know until they start crying. If they’re crying about losing a guy, or happy to be in love with a guy, then you know that they’re actually sincere." Connelly's follow-up: "Of the 25 women you choose, how many of them have to be there for the right reasons for it to be a good show?" Answer: "About half."

7. Another revealing exchange came when Connelly asked, "Why do so few women just walk away?" He put this excellent query to a relationship therapist. "It's the group dynamic," replied the therapist. "People are all geared around 'how can I stay,' and 'how can I win?' So it seems very counterintuitive to think, 'How can I get out of here?'”

The most intriguing answer to that question came from Rycroft. "This is gonna sound terrible, but I wasn’t attracted to Jason [Mesnick]," she said. "If I were to meet him on the street and be single, I don’t think that we would ever date. But put in the circumstances that we were, I thought he was the greatest thing to drop from heaven.'" Later, Season 6's Byron Velvick echoed: "I was in love [only] in so much as we were living in a fantasy world," he said of his Bachelor pick Mary Delgado. "The whole thing is surreal. The dates are surreal. I’m seeing her in the absolute best light. She’s seeing me in the absolute best light." Their volatile (and allegedly violent) relationship ended disastrously.

8. The producers have changed their ideas about the key to the show. "The initial thought [was] that we had to have real love and a marriage," Fleiss said. "Now we know that’s not necessarily true. It’s really based on whether or not [the viewers] like the guy and hate the girls…They don’t need to hate all the girls, but we need our fair share of villains every season. And now we’re very careful in our casting...." He also copped to intentionally drawing out any negative drama. "If there's a conflict, we don't want people hugging it out in the first 15 minutes."

9. Ever wondered whether contestants are drinking heavily? "Champagne, tequila, beer, red wine, white wine," said Fleiss. "I don’t think it plays any more of a role than it does in dating situations just in general." Estella Gardinier of season 4 joked about an average day: "Wake up. Go to the margarita machine. Take a nap. Go to the margarita machine. Say hi to the girls. Go to the margarita machine."

10. And the question we've all been dying to ask: Do the Bachelors have sex with the women? "There is sex," said Fleiss. "There’s not a ton of it. I think the average is, the guy will end up having sex with three women during the course of the show." But wait: when Connolly asked who had had the best batting average? "That’s my man Bob Guiney," Fleiss grinned. "I think he was five and a half."

"I heard they called me the Kissing Bandit," Guiney said. "Ultimately it was like you know just trying to figure out if you had a romantic connection." Uh-huh, sure, Bob.

Bachelor Jake Had 'No Doubt' Vienna Was the One
- The Bachelor Finale: And the Final Rose Goes to...
- The Bachelor Tell-All: The Return of Rozlyn
Bachelor Jake Will Be on Dancing with the Stars!

What revelation surprised you last night on 20/20's 'Inside the Bachelor: Stories Behind Rose'? Chime in below!

Connect with Us
Follow Our Pins

Yummy recipes, DIY projects, home decor, fashion and more curated by iVillage staffers.

Follow Our Tweets

The very dirty truth about fashion internships... DUN DUN @srslytheshow

On Instagram

Behind-the-scenes pics from iVillage.

Best of the Web