Is backflow after sex normal?
"I noticed that within a minute or two of my boyfriend's coming inside me, it gushes all back out. I'm more than positive that it's not my lubrication, but I've talked to a friend of mine and she said she's never even noticed it coming out. Is this normal? I've been on the pill for five months now, but I'm worried that this will affect my being able to have children in the future." --iVillager queenlizz
Question:Michael Ra Bouchard, MA, PhD
Dr. Bouchard is a board-certified clinical sexologist with a PhD in human sexuality. He lives in Hawaii, where he founded the Aloha Sexual... Read more
Yes, it's perfectly normal for some of a man's ejaculate to escape shortly after intercourse. The primary reason is that it actually comes out of a man's penis in a thicker, congealed consistency, then liquefies a minute or two later. When this happens, you have what we sexologists refer to as backflow.
Perhaps since each woman is unique in shape, and each man's ejaculate volume varies, this occurrence doesn't seem to happen to your friend. The main thing to understand here is that this is perfectly normal (and quite common) and is very unlikely to hinder your desire to conceive once you are ready.
And yes, when the time comes to start planning for ultimate conceptual success, you may want to minimize backflow by not getting up immediately upon completion of intercourse. Instead, just continue to recline and rest for a short while afterward. Backflow shouldn't hinder fertilization, though. Once they choose to start a family, most couples have no problem conceiving within a few months if they make a point to have lots of sex during the fertile period of the woman's cycle. Keep in mind that it literally takes only one of those little love seeds to do the trick.
So what's the best way to make love without making a mess in the sheets in the meantime? Simple. From here on out, consider keeping a thick towel underneath you, or nearby, to help soak up any excess discharge.
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