You gotta admire my friend Rhonda. We were out the other night, and she sent a beer over to this cute guy sitting at the bar. But that's not all! She stuck her business card on the glass; she has those cute, adhesive cards, and you gotta admire that too. Naturally, the guy walks over; they chat it up for a few minutes; and the next thing you know, they've made a date to have lunch at this new restaurant. Sounds foul to me, but the point is ? Rhonda gets dates.
I know what you're thinking. Rhonda must be quite the bombshell, but you're not even close. Sure, Rhonda's attractive, but she's no pageant winner. She's just aggressive. If you think about it, the dating scene is not unlike the workplace: Aggressive employees get promoted. Because Rhonda's aggressive and goes after what she wants, she's the CEO of her dating world.
So if you're tired of Friday nights in front of the TV, follow Rhonda's lead and take charge of your love life with these eight hints for a more aggressive you.
- You're hot and you know it. What Rhonda's got is what 98% of single people lack: Confidence. If you think you're hot, or at least pretend you think you're hot, others will feel the heat.
- Never turn down an invitation to go out. If you're on the couch watching the Real World marathon and your best friend calls to invite you out, go. No excuses. You never know who you might meet. And you don't want to miss out because you're watching the roommates fight over the phone.
- Some of the best dates are blind. A blind date is typically either a huge success or a horrifying nightmare. Either way you can't lose. You'll either end up with your soul mate or a hilarious anecdote for your dating memoirs.
- Use your connections. Don't rule out your neighbor's cousin's roommate. When someone approaches you with the phrase, "I know the perfect person for you," do you always have to make that face? Most people meet through friends. So mingle, connect, network. (See? I told you it was a lot like the workplace.)
- Be the social director. No one can resist an after-work happy hour. They just need someone to plan it. Take charge and pick the place, send the cheesy email (TGIF everybody!). Who knows? Those bean counters in accounting just may bring along some cute friends.
- Stop chatting and start dating. Sure, it's fun to meet someone via a quick search and strike up a conversation. But eventually you've got to put an end to the witty banter and make offline plans. "Have you tried that new restaurant?" may be a good opening, according to Rhonda.
- Cancel the pity party. Wah, wah, wah. Your friends are tired of hearing, "There's just nobody decent out there?" The new aggressive you needs a new battle cry: "There's so many people out there in this great big world, I'll try to go out with as many as possible!"
- Learn effective flirting. Eye contact, smiling, even winking? they're all nice but not exactly aggressive. You could wink until your contact pops out, but that won't get you a date. Verbal flirting and body contact always get the point across. Flirting will save you time, not to mention contact wear and tear.
Hey, you've always got the old "business card on the beer glass" trick. If you want to truly be aggressive, just go for it like Rhonda did. Of course, you'll have to order some adhesive business cards, but it'll be worth the investment.