Be Incredible in Bed

Step 3: Hot Techniques for Your Hands

Like the tips for turning on your man, this lesson is going to take you to new places -- and to greater heights of pleasure, starting at your own fingertips. Yes, hands are one of the most important ways of saying "I love (or lust) you" to a man. Plus, knowing what to do with your hands in bed can not only increase your partner's pleasure but also make lovemaking easier and more enjoyable for you.

Let's take a look at the three levels of manual touch: caressing, massage and the most hard-to-perfect move of all, the hand job. The first two, caressing and massage, are both on the softer side. Funny, isn't it? Even though these techniques usually get you both in the mood for sex, they're not a direct hit when it comes to achieving an orgasm. Instead, they're a sensuous way to create good feelings and make foreplay a sizzling experience for you both. In fact, when my clients report that they have lost their ability to truly connect with each other, I recommend exercises that will allow them to slow down, breathe and just touch each other's skin -- all over. This is a wonderful way to reconnect with the essence of each other, without the performance pressures of the sexual act. I find that couples often rekindle their feelings of romance or authentic loving through massage and then can regain their lust later, sometimes even 10 minutes into that same evening.

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